Funeral Etiquette

When attending a visitation or funeral, you might find yourself uncertain of what you should wear, what to say, or what to do. We've put together a short guide to the basics of funeral home etiquette to help you pay your respects with courtesy and consideration.

What to Wear

Try to find out the dress code before you attend, so that you can be sure you'll fit in and look appropriate. If you aren't sure, simply try to dress in a conservative way that shows respect for the family and other mourners. This doesn't necessarily mean you must wear black (in fact, some families specify "no black" for their services), but try to avoid overly bright colors. For men, a suit and a conservative tie is usually a safe bet. Women should generally wear a conservative dress, skirt, or pants with a tasteful blouse. Some families may request that you wear casual attire, a favorite color of the person who has passed away or even a favorite team jersey. Each celebration of life is unique as the individual, and some are very formal and others casual. Checking with the family or the funeral home and honoring the family’s wishes is a good idea.

Religious & Ethnic Customs

Traditions and customs differ among various communities, ethnic groups and religions, and it's often helpful to ask beforehand about any special considerations you need to take into account. We can answer many of your questions, and can also point you toward resources that offer specific and detailed guides.



A funeral is an emotional time, and grieving is a natural part of the healing process. Don't feel uncomfortable if you or the bereaved begins to cry. However, if you find yourself becoming extremely upset, it is kinder to excuse yourself to avoid increasing the strain on the family.


Greeting the Family

Upon arrival, approach the family and express your sympathy with an embrace or by offering your hands. Don't feel that you should avoid talking about the person who has died...in fact, talking can help the grieving process to begin.


What to Say

Express your sympathy in your own words, however it feels right to you. Kind words about the loved one who has passed are always appropriate, and a simple "I'm sorry for your loss" or "My thoughts and prayers are with you" can be meaningful and comforting for the bereaved.


What Not to Say

Don't ask the cause of death; if the family wants to discuss it, let them bring it up. Avoid giving unsolicited advice, or making comments that might unintentionally diminish the importance of the loss, such as "I've been through this before."


Paying Respect

At a service with an open casket, it's customary to show your respect by viewing the deceased and, if you wish, spending a few moments in silent prayer. The family may escort you to the casket, or you might approach on your own. Viewing the deceased is not mandatory, however, and you should act according to what is comfortable to you.


How to Act

After you've offered your condolences to the family, it's perfectly appropriate to engage in quiet conversation with friends and other associates of the deceased who attend the visitation. Don't feel that you have to stay longer than you feel comfortable; your presence means a lot to the family, no matter how long or short the visit.


Signing the Register

Be sure to add yourself to the register book, using your full name so that the family can identify you in the future. It's also helpful to add information about how you knew the deceased-through work, social clubs, school, etc.


Flowers and Gifts

Sending flowers, making a donation, or giving a memorial gift are all meaningful gestures to let the bereaved know that they are in your thoughts. The simplest of tributes can be of great comfort to the family, and can express your sympathy when words just aren't enough.


Turn Off Your Cellphone

This one should go without saying. If you choose to bring your phone into the funeral home, take a moment to make sure you've turned it off.


Celebration of Life Dress Code

Casual attire is the norm for many life celebrations, but what if you want to dress up a bit more? There's no need to fret! There are plenty of dress code options for life celebrations that will help you feel your best while honoring the occasion. Whether you're looking for inspiration or just need a little guidance, keep reading for some ideas on how to dress for life events.


Maintaining a Respectful Appearance at a Celebration of Life Event

When you are attending a celebration of life event, it is important to maintain your appearance. The most respectful way for attendees and guests at such an occasion would be in wearing formal attire or something like that creates the mood appropriate for what's happening with those paying respects. Maintaining your physical self includes what clothes make sure they're clean and tidy (no stains!), hair put up properly if necessary go easy on makeup suggest wearing something light-colored instead of dark colors might seem more appropriate however this isn’t necessarily true.


Semi-formal attire is a great choice for the celebration of life that calls for something a little dressier than casual wear but doesn't require a full formal outfit. A semi-formal look can be achieved with a dressy skirt or slacks paired with a blouse, nice top, or dressy shirt. You can also go in a dressy suit or dress. Accessories like heels, dressy jewelry, and a clutch bag can help complete the look.



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